What I Don't Do

SM preferences are extremely diverse, and it's practically impossible to perfectly align what each person wants to do.
However, it is possible and important to align on what "not to do," the boundaries, in advance.
Here, I'll list what I "don't do" and the reasons behind these boundaries.

What I "Don't Do"

Acts That Harm the Body

• Acts that cause injuries leaving marks
• Body modifications without consent
• Use of drugs or dangerous substances

I don't engage in these activities. The reason I don't do these things is that they aren't particularly enjoyable for me compared to the cost they impose.

I am not a sadist in the narrow sense. That is, I'm not the type who derives pleasure from inflicting pain on others and watching their reactions.
Rather, I enjoy the process of using someone's fetishes and habits against them, cornering them on a transactional basis.
Therefore, I have no interest in acts that harm the body.

However, this doesn't mean that training is completely free of pain.
I might spank until the buttocks are red and swollen, or restrict breathing by choking at the edge of pleasure as a standard technique.
But these are merely means of training to make you submit, not the goal.
So naturally, these acts are controlled to prevent them from going too far and causing bodily harm.

Extremely Unhygienic Acts

• Scat play involving feces
• Making someone lick floors or toilets
• Using insects or living creatures

I don't engage in these activities. Like the previous category, these carry significant physical risks, but I also have my own aversion to them.

After scat play or having someone lick a toilet, could I have them service me with that same mouth? I couldn't.
I also don't want to procure planarians to insert into someone's urethra, and I feel sympathy for the creatures that would be used.

However, it's important to note that what I consider unhygienic is based on my own subjective view.
For example, I don't consider pouring urine over your head to be particularly unhygienic.
I will also naturally order you to service me by licking my anus, though after a shower.
Depending on your values, you might find these things intolerable as well.

Acts That Damage Social Life

• Excessive public exposure
• Exposure on the internet or other media
• Interference with work or family life

I don't engage in these activities. I avoid these acts because I believe they lack sustainability.

My sexual preference can be summarized in the word "corruption."
It's precisely because you have a solid foundation in life and an independent personality that the pleasure of training, subjugation, and "corruption" arises.
If you were to become socially worthless garbage, I would lose interest.
That's why I don't engage in these acts.

For example, it's natural to feel strong concern about the risk of leakage when reading about training records where someone is made to send photos holding their ID card in their mouth while naked.
I also have no intention of diminishing your value as my sexual tool through such accidents.
Therefore, I have strong defensive measures in place for managing such images.

Financial Transactions

• Demanding money
• Paying money

I don't engage in these activities.

I absolutely do not pay you money to train you, which is essentially prostitution under names like "sugar dating" or "compensated dating."
This isn't an economic issue but one of dignity.
I sometimes receive invitations like "I'm mentally masochistic, but I'd also like financial support," but I decline.
If I can't tell whether the woman kneeling before me is doing so because of my skill or merely for money, there's no point in training.

Conversely, I will not demand money or other assets from you. I have no interest in extorting money from masochists.
The reason is simply that I think it's pathetic.
While I fortunately earn a much higher than average income, even if I were living on welfare-level income, I wouldn't try to extort money from masochists.
I believe that would be giving up my own dignity.

That said, I understand there is a fetish called "tribute," and I like the structure of that fetish.
I've actually been begged, "Please let me work in the sex industry and give you money."
I might accept "tribute" as part of training, as long as obtaining money itself is not the goal.

As a rule, I cover all costs associated with training (hotel fees, equipment costs, etc.).

Other Agreed-Upon Boundaries

If you consult with me about certain boundaries before entering into a relationship with me, and I agree to them, those acts will continue to be honored as things I "don't do" out of good faith.

For example, in the past,
"I was strongly inspired by R's training record, but due to my physical constitution, I cannot take birth control pills and cannot accept ejaculation inside me"
said one masochist.

I agreed to this condition, so I have never once pressured that masochist to take pills, and I use condoms.

I promise to properly respect any boundaries we agree upon.

Summary

Aligning on and respecting what we "don't do" in advance is important, even in special relationships like SM.
In fact, it could be said that establishing a baseline is especially important in a non-everyday world where the relationship is sustained only by mutual trust.

The "don't do" list might include things you actually "want to do."
That means our compatibility isn't perfect. If it can't be adjusted, we'll have to accept it.

There is no coercive force in this kind of relationship.
The police won't enforce it, and no court will issue an execution order.
That's precisely why I, on my own honor, will keep the words I've written here.