About Safety

Following What I Don't Do, I'd like to write about matters of security and safety here.

STD Risk Management

In Training Record of R, there's mention of taking birth control pills for ejaculation inside, but
when having sex without a condom, besides pregnancy, STDs are a risk that should be guarded against.
Or rather, regardless of ejaculation, STDs are naturally a risk that should be guarded against whenever there is mucous membrane contact.

I'm not reckless enough to immediately make mucous membrane contact with a stranger.
When I enter into a relationship with a new masochist, I use condoms. Of course, not just during penetration, but for oral sex as well.

Also, when I know I'll be entering a relationship with a new masochist, I get tested for STDs.
Did you know that there are now kits available that allow you to get tested by mail? They're very convenient, and I've used them many times.
They cover major test targets like HIV, syphilis, and widespread concerns like chlamydia and candida, costing around 15,000 yen.

If we're going to have a relationship involving direct mucous membrane contact, I also have the other person undergo similar testing.
Of course, I cover this cost.

By the way, neither I nor any partner has ever tested positive for an STD.
However, I plan to continue this practice to prepare for the worst-case scenario. I think the cost is very reasonable when considered as an investment in safety.

Information Management

After hearing about R's naked ID card photo, you might be concerned about information management.

The images and videos that masochists have given me, which cannot be shown to others, are managed very strictly.
But how are they managed?
Even if I say I manage the images with integrity, leaks due to viruses or my own human error are still conceivable.

What's the best way to minimize the risk of leakage to the internet?
It's to store them on a device that's not connected to the internet. Such devices are professionally known as standalone terminals.
The terminal I use for storage physically lacks the mechanism to connect to a network, so it's impossible to leak anything even if someone wanted to.

Furthermore, even in the unlikely event that the terminal is lost or a USB device with network connection capabilities is inserted, it's still safe.
This is because each file is individually encrypted with strong encryption.
Only the master password in my head can restore these files to meaningful information.

So please rest assured on this point, as I protect secrets with very strong safety measures.

Safe Word

Let me also write about safety during play.

Are you familiar with safe words? For those who have peeked into the SM world to some extent, this is common knowledge, but I'll explain assuming you're a beginner.

In the world of SM, words like "no" or "stop" can't always be taken at face value.
Since part of play involves doing painful, unpleasant, or overwhelmingly pleasurable things, such words tend to be ignored.
In fact, you too might have experienced that masochistic feeling where you say no verbally but don't really want it to stop.

So what should you do when you genuinely want something to stop?
If you desperately say "no" or "stop," but an excited sadist continues the act, it could be dangerous.

That's why there's a code word decided between S and M in advance, called a safe word.

I use "I'm sad" as a safe word.
Also, as a safe gesture for when your mouth is covered, I adopt the act of rotating your neck, wrist, or ankle.

If you give these signals during play, I will immediately stop what I'm doing and release any restraints.
This is an absolute principle for safety, so there's no "no means yes" here.

I always make new masochists who enter into a relationship with me practice this safe word and safe gesture.

There are various other safety aspects related to play, such as standards for looseness during restraint or sterilization of equipment, but in all cases, I proceed with a safety buffer based on correct knowledge.
So please rest assured that I take proper care to prevent play from going too far.

Summary

I've explained what safety measures are in place as a prerequisite for SM.

While these are things that the dominant side should recognize, you can't feel "secure" about entrusting yourself unless you know how the other person thinks about "safety."
If you ever choose a master in the future, I think "safety" will be the most important consideration.

In the training records and training task articles, I couldn't explain these behind-the-scenes, foundational aspects in detail because there were other contents I wanted to convey.
I hope this article contributes to your sense of "security."

If there's anything else you'd like to know or are concerned about, please don't hesitate to ask.